Today’s post is a guest post from Alida of Blackpurl’s Knitpickings…An Expat Journal
On December 13, 2011 my husband, Tom, and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. Those taking bets on our wedding day would have lost big time. Most of the bettors didn’t think we would make it past six months. The odds were definitely stacked against us.
We were 18 years old.
We only had our high school diplomas to support us.
A compatibility test showed concerns.
We were an interracial couple. (30 years ago this was very rare)
All we had was our love for each other, a good sense of humor and our mutual faith in God. And somehow we had the audacity to believe that it would all work out. And with His grace it did. If I had to point to one thing that held us together I would have to show you this verse:
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecc. 4:12
Our individual faith in God led to a mutual commitment to bring glory to Him with our lives. We stumbled along the way of course. And after the honeymoon, we quickly realized that we needed to turn the excitement of the wedding and dreams of happily ever after into a marriage.
Lessons Learned Along the Way
We learned to give grace to one another even when it hurt. And we learned that His grace is sufficient enough to see us through each heartache.
We learned that forgiveness is a process and not an event. And we took the time to walk through that process over the years for as long as it took.
We learned that it is how you say things and the timing of when you say it that leads to conflicts. And we worked on our timing and tone of our voices so each of us could truly be heard.
We learned to stop praying “Lord change him/her” and start praying the more effective prayer of “Lord change me”. And our growth as individuals led to our continued growth as a couple.
We learned to laugh together, to encourage one another and we became the best of friends along the way.
And finally we learned that love is a decision and not a feeling. Our feelings could have caused us to stay focused on our differences. Our feelings could have been allowed us to cut like a chainsaw through that cord of three strands and sever the tie that binds us together. But, we chose to love. We chose to live through the for better and for worse of daily life. And God is now blessing us with the happily ever after…one day at a time!
Day of our 30th anniversary link: http://blackpurlsknitpickings.blogspot.com/2011/12/now-we-know-we-do.html
Link to all of our 30th anniversary posts: http://blackpurlsknitpickings.blogspot.com/search/label/30th%20Wedding%20Anniversary